Quickies, Rate Rises and Feminism

When we think about hot sex, some minds will drift to long, steamy encounters filled with lingering touches, where time seems to disappear as you explore each other’s bodies, try new things (or all the things!). Intoxicated by each other as you become a tangled sweaty, gooey mess, starting slow then ramping up to multiple energetic climaxes.

Other people will imagine quick, stolen pockets of opportunity, a furious exchange of energy, clothes ripped off and thrown with abandon while mouths barely break contact, perhaps a quick taste before plunging their hard cock deep inside and railing/being-railed-by their paramour.

The truth is that sexuality is a diverse and multifaceted experience and both of these scenarios can be wildly exciting and hot hot hot.

Quickies often get a bad rap, viewed as a less desirable alternative to a longer, connective session. However, I challenge this idea that connection requires any particular length of time. I believe it depends on the mindset of both parties involved and in my case I’m pretty invested on sexually connecting as quickly as possible and generally head into a booking running pretty hot to begin with.

I do absolutely adore longer sex sessions; in my personal life my romantic partners and I tend to lean towards this. But I do also sometimes call upon someone for immediate relief and this is always really fucking hot and satisfying. Sometimes I just need a big O, like, NOW. And I know how to get it, I know my body. I can get myself off with someones assistance in only a few minutes. Then they get to have their turn (or not, depends on the kink level. Subby bitches wanting to be used and kicked out without relief please raise your hand).

I love this 0-to-100 gearshift in my day, which finishes almost as soon as it begins and leaves me in a daze as they walk out the door.

I also happen to have a freeuse kink, so even if it’s not about my O, I find this dynamic of someone walking in, using me for their pleasure, then heading out to be quite erotic and will usually pull out my vibrator after they have left.

So why am I talking about this?

I used to offer Quickies as a service. 15 minute sessions for clients short on time or short on cash. This was pulled from my menu, not because I don’t enjoy it, not because I wanted to upsell, but because the types of enquiries I was receiving were intolerable.

This is also the reason I raised my rates across the board. Unfortunately, the general perception of sexworkers that charge less, is that they have less value, and a lot of men will treat them accordingly. Must be something wrong with them. They are not going to look like their pictures, they have no morals, they are dirty, they are going to provide a terrible service. Or, they are vulnerable, they will be easily coerced, they will have poor boundaries.

Perfect target for malicious intent, or just not really human so no need to treat them with respect or think too much about your behaviour.

You’re also tapping into a crowd of penny pinching “punters” who are looking to get as much as they can for as little money as possible, and will try to haggle your prices and your services.

When I charged $500 for an hour, I mostly received enquiries asking if I would do it for $350. Now that I charge $650 for an hour, people tip me. I’ve always provided the same quality service, I was just as hot then, nothing has changed except I get less gross dudes in my DMs.

When I offered $200 quickies, I received a plethora of enquiries, some were genuine and excited and we had a great time. I still have a few regulars who have continued to see me for this off-menu service. But the majority of enquiries were people asking if $150 would do it, then abusing me when I was firm on my price.

Responding to text messages was a full-time job, it was fucking exhausting, a lot of the language was disgusting and eventually I just stopped offering it for my own sanity.

Similarly, when I have had special discounts or “Blow n Go Days”, the majority of the enquiries have been from people demanding I charge even less.

I also received a lot of requests for even shorter sessions. If it only takes them one minute to cum, they don’t need 15 minutes so couldn’t I do a 5 minute session for half the price? Most of my regular lovers would baulk at this idea, I have plenty of sessions with people who only need 1 minute of penetration to cum but can easily come up with delicious activities to fill an hour or two in my company.

Of those that did book quickies and BnGs, I also experienced a high incidence of No-Shows and ghosters. A complete lack of respect for my time and for me. Although the sessions may be short, I do have to move my day around to fit them in, prepare mentally and physically for the session and arrange to have an incall space available, including travelling to the location.

The reality is that the “good men” are being charged more by us “high end” whores as a direct result of the behaviour of misogynistic assholes. If that’s not a good enough reason to get behind dismantling the patriarchy, I don’t know what is.

If you are a man that thinks that this behaviour is unacceptable, I urge you to get on board the feminist movement. You being an all-round good guy to women is not enough, you also need to be on the front line, calling out your mates, relatives and co-workers when they do and say gross shit in front of you. These guys do not respect women, so they will not listen to us. But they might listen to you.

If you have no idea where to start with feminism, but do want to be better educated, I highly recommend checking out CYZOR, a lovely guy who makes regular content on Tiktok, Instagram and Youtube. With very accessible short clips, he explains various scenarios well and you might appreciate the Man-to-Man conversation.

Its honestly pretty rough out here for women, and for sexworkers, and our guard is up to try and protect ourselves from the riff-raff. These are not just awful texts – the mindset behind them is the catalyst for physical and sexual violence against women. I personally do not know of any woman (or person with a lived experience as a woman), SW or not, who has not been sexually harrassed or assaulted at least once in their life. It’s not all men, but it is all women. And if this requires a personal touch for you, its me, its your mum, its your sister, its your daughter. Its all of us.

I am so appreciative of all the wonderful, kind, loving, respectful men that have come into my life, but unfortunately it can be hard to tell the good from the bad when meeting someone new. Most people can behave well at least initially. So our guard is up to protect ourselves, and in the SW game, this means intensive screening procedures, having high standards for enquiries and trusting our instincts. I block about 5x as many people as I actually see.

But while we’re all waiting for men to just stop being so fucking awful, I want to find a way to get my quick fixes, and look after my sweet lovers. I know some of you just love a quickie, others just can’t carve out more time in your busy schedules, or justify the expense of longer sessions. And as for me, I miss it! I’m sad I don’t get to offer Quickies because it attracts too many dickheads.

So I figure, instead of putting these on my menu, I’m going to put it here, with this blog serving as a disclaimer.

Back on the menu, only for those who read to the end AND follow the rules:

SHORT SESSIONS

10min blow n go covered BJ, with or without gloryhole for $150

15min quickie – $200

20min quickie – $250

Quickies can have the vibe and inclusions of GFE, Freeuse or Ember’s Choice and includes one shot only.

THE RULES

• No haggling of rates or inclusions, these are my lowest rates and shortest sessions.
• Outcalls attract a travel fee.
• Short-notice bookings are available but never at night or on weekends.
• I shouldn’t take more than 3-4 messages to lock in a time and day. You have access to my schedule here and should come in knowing exactly what you want and be able to communicate that to me clearly.
• New clients will need to pay in full, in advance via Beem or my wishlist unless it is a short notice booking (within two hours).
• If you are a no-show or a ghoster, you will be blocked and I will tell all my friends to avoid you (I’m a social butterfly and all my friends are whores).
• Your time includes your shower and getting dressed – these sessions are only for those seriously ready to get down to business.
• If you think 15 minutes is not enough time, do not message me to tell me this – this service is simply not for you, you can choose one of my other options.
• Every rule on this list is here for a reason and is non-negotiable.

LOWER PRICED SESSIONS FOR MY LOVELY REGULARS

If you are seeing me on a regular basis, I will happily discuss an ongoing reduced fee. This can involve purchasing a pack of sessions in advance, or receiving a discount if your last session was less than a fortnight ago. If this is you, reach out!