Sex Work is Work. But its still Sex.

Picture this.
You have been on a couple dates with someone cute. You’ve been getting to know each other and things are going well. The vibe is getting flirtatious, you’re drawn to each other physically. After another connective and engaging date, they pull you close, and you kiss. Their soft lips on yours sends sparks through your entire body. You both pull away, make eye contact briefly, then connect again for another delicious taste. Your hands caress each other, you pull each other in, and you feel the stirrings in your nethers. Or perhaps you’re instantly rock hard, maybe you’re one of those guys. They invite you into their bedroom and you’re there, you’re so there. OMG its going to happen! You take their hand, and you murmur… “Cum on Body?”

They visibly cringe. Why did you say that for? You’ve killed the mood. They tell their friends about you. You’re “Cum on Body Guy” now. They never want to see you again.

Meanwhile, somewhere else in the multiverse:
They invite you into their bedroom and you’re there, you’re so there. OMG it’s going to happen! You join them in an intoxicating exchange of energy, being present in the moment. Taking the time explore the intense sensual experience of being intwined with each other.

At some point their hand is wrapped around your throbbing cock and you feel like you’re going to explode. “I’m going to cum soon… would it be okay if I finish on your gorgeous body?” you ask, between passionate kisses. “Mmmm yes please!” they exclaim and they shift a little so you can have a better aim.

They grin at you and groan softly as you release yourself all over their chest. They run a finger through your warm fluids, commenting on how big your load was and giggle. You reach for a nearby towel and give your sticky partner a quick wipe down, then take your place at their side, snuggling in, kissing them. “God that felt amazing” you say, “you’re so fucking sexy… is there anything I can do for you now?”.

They tell their friends about you. You’re a babe. You’re an enthusiastic and adventurous lover. They can’t wait to see you again and see what other sexy fun you might get up to.

Where am I going with this?
You didn’t find me on Hinge or Bumble. I’m a sexworker. Isn’t the whole point of seeing an escort that you get to do things that YOU want to do, and ask for things point blank that you wouldn’t usually be able to get? This is pretty standard practice in this industry, and most of us will have a list of things we do and do not offer, listed on our website or directory ads.

But not all sexworkers were created equal. In fact, we’re real live human beings, with our own unique personalities, motivations, sexual proclivities and service offerings.

Each of us decides what works for us. Some sexual activities are going to be enjoyable, some will be a neutral experience. Some activities we will find unpleasant but are happy to do for money (just like any other job). Some things we will find too unpleasant or unsafe to do, even for money, and will have a firm boundary around this.

Sex Work is Work. But its also still sex.
For me, at-work intimacy is not just a transaction. I want to give you a genuine sexual experience and share myself with you authentically, as if we were dating. I need to be turned on, I aim to enjoy myself, and ideally, time permitting, I want to climax. Yes, I know – that should not always be the goal. But I climax pretty easily and often, so its generally within reach if you’re not actively turning me off.

My booking process may differ from what you are used to. I will not guarantee specific sex acts or positions, because my focus is on engaging in sex that feels right for me in the moment. This approach allows me to remain fully present and genuinely enjoy our time together.

I’m looking for clients who appreciate this perspective—those who understand that intimacy is about creating a connection, not just fulfilling a list of desires.
However, you will find that I’m a very open-minded person (Read: Kinky). And one of the things I find very sexy is enthusiasm, joy and responsiveness. So if something in particular really gets you going, or you’ve been dreaming about trying something new, I’m going to be very excited to share that experience with you. 

BUT I REALLY WANT TO DO THIS SPECIFIC THING!
Lets use deepthroat as an example. For me, deepthroat does not exist in a vacuum, it needs context to be sexy. And I don’t want to do it unless its sexy for me. If you require our sexual experience to include deepthroat, I’m not the provider for you.

Can I deepthroat? Yes (depending on the dick size and shape).

If you message me asking for a session with deepthroat, its a no.

But lets say you pour your energy into this hot exchange where I’m naturally drawn to submit to you, you’re taking charge and making me turn to jelly with your touch. Then you get me on my knees and ask me to show you how much I want it, I’m probably going to very, very open to deepthroating you. At that point you might like to give me my vibrator, or demand I rub my own clit while I enjoy your cock. Then after I cum hard as you fuck my mouth, you can pull me up and bend me over and… ok I’m getting carried away back to the subject.

I love a wide variety of kinks, fetishes and activities. Its pretty easy to have a hot sexy time, living out your fantasies with someone who is present and there for it and enjoying it just as much.

If you have a specific fantasy that has been on your mind – wonderful! I’m all for immersive experiences, trying new things, and especially interested in seeing you have a great time. But sometimes its best for us to get to know each other a little first so we can connect and play with low pressure, before the main event.

Does this mean that all sessions are technically an Ember’s Choice Session? No, not quite. This is more of a My Body My Choice thing, rather than an Ember’s Choice thing. I have made the choice that I will only take bookings that I enjoy, rather than tolerating fake intimacy for cash. I’ve found that when I engage in fake intimacy, it is both emotionally draining and sexually frustrating. I’m showing up to work very invested and I have a very low tolerance for bad bookings.

By drawing a line here, I am honouring myself and my limits. I know this is going to lose me business (and it does), but I am keeping myself safe. And what I’m selling here is real intimacy, something the right clientele will think is more valuable than any BBBJ could ever be.

Ember’s Choice is it’s own type of experience, with it’s signature flavour being that on top of me only doing what I want, I’m assertively in charge and using you for my pleasure. This is a power play dynamic that I enjoy.

So what do I offer? I know at the end of the day this is a transaction, and you want to know what’s possible, and ideally you also want to know my limits so that you can respect them. I’ve created a list of my green, orange and red light activities below for your reference.

THE ALWAYS LIST
This means any session has the capacity to include this. If you tell me that that particular thing is a turn on for you, I’ll try to include it, because I want you to be turned on. Of course if you book a certain session type, I’m going to create the vibe you are seeking, but the physical activities we engage in are going to vary depending on us and how we feel together.

Saying you’re interested in doing something doesn’t guarantee it – nothing is ever guaranteed. Even Full Service – Penis in Vagina penetrative sex is not guaranteed, I have plenty of encounters that do not include this. I’m happy to do it, but your penis might get stagefright or overly excited and thats not within my control.

Deep French Kissing (DFK) is always on the cards, but may be stopped at any time if I’m not enjoying it or it doesn’t feel natural. Sometimes kissing is sexier with tongue and sometimes its better without.

All that is guaranteed is that we will spend time together, the rest we find out when we get there.

• Kissing, including tongue (DFK)
• Sensual touch both ways
• Nipple play both ways
• Cuddling
• Massage on me
• Social dates
• Hand stuff on you – handjob, touching your anus or vulva
• Hand stuff on me – touching my vulva and anus (no fingers inside)
• Grinding/dry humping
• Penis-in-vagina penetrative sex
• Toy-in-vagina penetrative sex
• Multiple shots (MSOG) – I don’t place limits on how many times you cum
• Feet play on me including licking and sucking
• Footjobs (as long as you hold my feet if my legs get tired)
• Mutual masturbation
• Mommy/MILF roleplay
• Cross-dressing or Sissy roleplay

THE SOMETIMES LIST
This made depend on my mood, physical capacity, the vibe of the session. There is nothing on this list that I don’t LOVE, given the appropriate context. But whether I want to do them with you during our time together, you’ll have to wait and see. Again, you’re welcome to express your interest, but it does not guarantee it will happen.

• Covered blowjobs
• Licking and sucking your balls (more likely if you’ve shaved)
• Oral on me (DATY) including tongue inside me
• Rimming on me including tongue inside me
• Facesitting
• Rimming on you (with protection)
• “Hardcore”, “Intense” or “Rough” sex – fast, hard, deep jackhammering
• Use of sex toys, including various sized dildos and sex machine
• Prostate massage on you
• Anal sex on me – slow riding
• Anal sex on me – deep hard fucking
• Anal sex on you – I love pegging! But some days I’m too tired to top
• Fisting on you
• Group sex – doubles partners , gangbangs, orgies etc
• Dirty talk
• Outfit requests and costumes
• Sensual submission
• Cheeky domination
• Cruel domination
• Pain or impact play both ways
• Fantasy fulfilment
• Other roleplay scenarios, e.g. cuckolding, CNC, slave,
• Massage on you
• Bondage on you
• Armpit licking on me
• Wrestling
• Golden showers both ways
• Ice and Hot Wax play
• Filming sessions – with my camera only

THE NEVER LIST
These are either not for me, or something I only do with romantic partners. I will leave it up to your imagination as to which is which, but please know these are hard limits and non-negotiable.

• Fingers inside me, fingerbanging
• Fisting on me
• Squirting
• Biting me – my lips, my tongue, my nipples, my body
• Love bites/Hickies on my neck or other parts of my body
• Excessive sucking on my neck, lips, tongue
• Foot play on you
• Armpit play on you
• BBBJ – Natural blowjob (no condom)
• Natural sex (no condom)
• Cum on face
• Cum on my genitals/anus
• CIM (Cum in Mouth) or Snowballing
• Ass to Mouth
• Bondage on me
• Blindfolds on me
• Gagging and vomiting
• Fecal play
• Needle play or blood play
• Drug or Alcohol use
• Roleplay featuring me as schoolgirl, student or maid
• Anything illegal
• Anything non-consensual
• Anything public or involving other non-consenting people

Did I miss anything? If you feel I’ve neglected to mention something on this list, please feel free to ask me about it directly.