Sex Work is Work. But its still Sex.
Picture this.
You have been on a couple dates with someone cute. You’ve been getting to know each other and things are going well. The vibe is getting flirtatious, you’re drawn to each other physically. After another connective and engaging date, they pull you close, and you kiss. Their soft lips on yours sends sparks through your entire body. You both pull away, make eye contact briefly, then connect again for another delicious taste. Your hands caress each other, you pull each other in, and you feel the stirrings in your nethers. Or perhaps you’re instantly rock hard, maybe you’re one of those guys. They invite you into their bedroom and you’re there, you’re so there. OMG its going to happen! You take their hand, and you murmur… “Cum on Body?”
They visibly cringe. Why did you say that for? You’ve killed the mood. They tell their friends about you. You’re “Cum on Body Guy” now. They never want to see you again.
Meanwhile, somewhere else in the multiverse:
They invite you into their bedroom and you’re there, you’re so there. OMG it’s going to happen! You join them in an intoxicating exchange of energy, being present in the moment. Taking the time explore the intense sensual experience of being intwined with each other.
At some point their hand is wrapped around your throbbing cock and you feel like you’re going to explode. “I’m going to cum soon… would it be okay if I finish on your gorgeous body?” you ask, between passionate kisses. “Mmmm yes please!” they exclaim and they shift a little so you can have a better aim.
They grin at you and groan softly as you release yourself all over their chest. They run a finger through your warm fluids, commenting on how big your load was and giggle. You reach for a nearby towel and give your sticky partner a quick wipe down, then take your place at their side, snuggling in, kissing them. “God that felt amazing” you say, “you’re so fucking sexy… is there anything I can do for you now?”.
They tell their friends about you. You’re a babe. You’re an enthusiastic and adventurous lover. They can’t wait to see you again and see what other sexy fun you might get up to.
Where am I going with this?
You didn’t find me on Hinge or Bumble. I’m a sexworker. Isn’t the whole point of seeing an escort that you get to do things that YOU want to do, and ask for things point blank that you wouldn’t usually be able to get? This is pretty standard practice in this industry, and most of us will have a list of things we do and do not offer, listed on our website or directory ads.
But not all sexworkers were created equal. In fact, we’re real live human beings, with our own unique personalities, motivations, sexual proclivities and service offerings.
Each of us decides what works for us. Some sexual activities are going to be enjoyable, some will be a neutral experience. Some activities we will find unpleasant but are happy to do for money (just like any other job). Some things we will find too unpleasant or unsafe to do, even for money, and will have a firm boundary around this.
Sex Work is Work. But its also still sex.
For me, at-work intimacy is not just a transaction. I want to give you a genuine, embodied experience and share intimacy authentically, rather than performing a scripted checklist of acts.
I need to be turned on, I aim to enjoy myself, and ideally, time permitting, I want to climax. Yes, I know – that should not always be the goal. But I climax pretty easily and often, so its generally within reach if you’re not actively turning me off.
My booking process may differ from what you are used to
I will not guarantee specific sex acts or positions, because my focus is on engaging in intimacy that feels natural and enjoyable in the moment. Some activities are included as part of my standard sessions, while a small number of more explicit PSE elements can be added as an optional extra.
I’m looking for clients who appreciate this perspective—those who understand that intimacy is about creating a connection, not just fulfilling a list of desires.
However, you will find that I’m a very open-minded person (Read: Kinky). And one of the things I find very sexy is enthusiasm, joy and responsiveness. So if something in particular really gets you going, or you’ve been dreaming about trying something new, I’m going to be very excited to share that experience with you.
BUT I REALLY WANT TO DO THIS SPECIFIC THING!
Lets use deepthroat as an example. For me, deepthroat does not exist in a vacuum, it needs context to be sexy. And I don’t want to do it unless its sexy for me. If you require our sexual experience to include deepthroat, I’m not the provider for you.
Can I deepthroat? Yes (depending on the dick size and shape).
If someone messages me demanding deepthroat as a requirement for booking, I’m probably not the right provider for them.
But lets say you pour your energy into this hot exchange where I’m naturally drawn to submit to you, you’re taking charge and making me turn to jelly with your touch. Then you get me on my knees and ask me to show you how much I want it, I’m probably going to very, very open to deepthroating you. At that point you might like to give me my vibrator, or demand I rub my own clit while I enjoy your cock. Then after I cum hard as you fuck my mouth, you can pull me up and bend me over and… ok I’m getting carried away back to the subject.
I love a wide variety of kinks, fetishes and activities. Its pretty easy to have a hot sexy time, living out your fantasies with someone who is present and there for it and enjoying it just as much.
If you have a specific fantasy that has been on your mind – wonderful! I’m all for immersive experiences, trying new things, and especially interested in seeing you have a great time. But sometimes its best for us to get to know each other a little first so we can connect and play with low pressure, before the main event.
Does this mean that all sessions are technically an Ember’s Choice Session?
No, not quite. This is more of a My Body My Choice thing, rather than an Ember’s Choice thing. I have made the choice that I will only take bookings that I enjoy, rather than tolerating fake intimacy for cash. I’ve found that when I engage in fake intimacy, it is both emotionally draining and sexually frustrating. I’m showing up to work very invested and I have a very low tolerance for bad bookings.
By drawing a line here, I am honouring myself and my limits. I know this is going to lose me business (and it does), but I am keeping myself safe. And what I’m selling here is real intimacy, something the right clientele will think is more valuable than any BBBJ could ever be.
Ember’s Choice is it’s own type of experience, with it’s signature flavour being that on top of me only doing what I want, I’m assertively in charge and using you for my pleasure. This is a power play dynamic that I enjoy.
What We Might Get Up To
So what do I offer? I know at the end of the day this is a transaction, and you want to know what’s possible, and ideally you also want to know my limits so that you can respect them. I’ve created a list of possible inclusions and definite exclusions, which you can view on my Menu page.
Every sex worker offers slightly different experiences, boundaries, and kinks. I’m quite open-minded and adventurous, but I also keep clear limits so that everything we do together feels genuine and enjoyable for both of us.
Rather than listing everything here, I’ve created a detailed guide to the activities and experiences I offer, including what’s always possible, what depends on the mood and chemistry, and what my firm limits are.
You can explore that full list on my Experiences Page, which covers everything from sensual connection and girlfriend-style intimacy through to kink exploration, group play, and more adventurous dynamics.
What matters most to me is that our time together feels natural, consensual, and mutually enjoyable, rather than following a rigid checklist.
Curious TO HAVE A GENUINE SEXUAL EXPERIENCE WITH ME?
If you’re wondering what kinds of experiences we might explore together, I’ve created a detailed guide covering the sessions and dynamics I offer.
You can browse the full Experiences Menu to see everything from sensual connection and girlfriend-style intimacy to kink exploration, group play, and immersive roleplay scenarios.
If you’re not sure exactly what you’re looking for yet, that’s completely fine too. Some of the best experiences happen when we start with curiosity and see where the chemistry takes us.