Escort Terminology Guide: What Common Sexworker Terms Mean

If you’re new to booking a sex worker, the language used on websites and directories can sometimes feel confusing. The industry has developed its own shorthand, acronyms, and terms over time, and many of them aren’t obvious if you haven’t encountered them before.

This guide explains some of the most common escort and sex work terminology so you can feel more confident navigating websites, reading service descriptions, and making enquiries.

Every escort works differently, so definitions may vary slightly between providers. The explanations below are intended as a general guide to help you understand the language you might encounter – as well as my own two cents about a few things.

The Most Common Escort Terms Explained

These are some of the terms people most often encounter when exploring escort websites or booking companionship.

Incall

An incall appointment takes place at the escort’s location. The client travels to the escort’s private space at the agreed time. The escort is hosting.

Incall appointments are very common because the escort can control the environment, ensuring it is comfortable, discreet, and set up for relaxation.

Outcall

An outcall is when the escort travels to the client. This usually takes place at a hotel, apartment, or private residence. The client is hosting.

Outcalls often include a travel fee depending on distance and location.

Full Service

Full Service, or FSSW (Full Service Sex Worker) is the term used to imply that the sexwork provider will be willing to include penetrative sex in the booking.

I am a Full Service Sex Worker. Some sexworkers that are not Full-Service include kink providers, massage providers, strippers and porn actors.

GFE (Girlfriend Experience)

The Girlfriend Experience, often shortened to GFE, refers to a style of booking that emphasises warmth, affection, and emotional connection.

Rather than focusing purely on sexual activity, GFE-style experiences often include things like conversation, cuddling, kissing, relaxed chemistry, and a more natural feeling dynamic.

Many people seek this style of experience because they want intimacy and genuine connection as part of their time together.

PSE (Porn Star Experience)

The Porn Star Experience, or PSE, generally refers to a style of booking that focuses more heavily on explicit sexual energy and fantasy-driven encounters.

Unlike more affectionate or connection-focused experiences, PSE usually places a stronger emphasis on sexual intensity and visual excitement. However, it’s important to understand that PSE means different things to different providers, and there is no universal definition.

Because of this, the best way to understand what a provider means by PSE is to read their website carefully. I also explore my personal interpretation of PSE in more detail on my PSE page.

Screening

Screening is the process escorts use to verify new clients before meeting.

This can involve providing basic information such as a phone number, LinkedIn profile, references from other escorts, or workplace details. Screening helps ensure safety and professionalism for everyone involved.

Most independent escorts require some form of screening before confirming a booking.

My screening process involves taking your photo ID, such as Driver Licence, so I can verify your legal name and also check that you are legally of age. I then check your details with various industry resources prior to accepting your booking.

Deposit

A deposit is a small payment made in advance to confirm a booking.

Deposits help protect the escort’s time and reduce cancellations or no-shows. Once a deposit is received, the appointment is usually considered secured. Deposits are generally non-refundable, though sometimes a provider will offer to move some or all of your deposit to another day if you reschedule within a short timeframe.

Session

A session refers to the time you spend together during a booking.

Sessions are booked by length of time, not by a list of guaranteed activities. This is an important distinction, as the experience itself can evolve naturally within the time you have together.

Companion

The term companion is often used interchangeably with escort and sexworker. It emphasises the social and relational aspect of the work.

Companion bookings may include conversation, dates, travel, shared experiences, or intimate time together.

Tour

When an escort tours, they travel to another city for a limited time to meet clients there.

Tours are usually announced in advance so clients in that location can book appointments during the visit. A tour usually involves the provider arranging an incall space at the destination.

I do not generally offer tours as they are not a financially viable practice for me and do not tend to attract good quality clientele. I do offer FMTY though!

FMTY

Fly-Me-To-You (FMTY) is the term used when you arrange for an escort from another location to come visit you at your location. For instance, I am based in Melbourne, but if you are in Sydney, you can still book a session with me. I will fly to Sydney to spend time with you. I offer FMTY Australia-wide and internationally. You can read more about it on my FMTY Page.

Escort & Sex Worker Terms: A–Z Glossary

Below is a broader alphabetical glossary of terms commonly used in the industry.

Aftercare

Supportive care or comfort offered after an intense erotic or BDSM experience. This might include cuddling, conversation, reassurance, or time to relax.

Anal

Refers to anal play or anal penetration. Availability varies widely between providers. I enjoy anal and talk about it further on this page.

BBBJ

Bare Back Blow Job. Oral sex without a condom. I do not offer this service.

BDSM

Bondage, Discipline, Sadism and Masochism. An umbrella term covering bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadism, masochism, and many forms of power exchange or kink play. You can read about my offerings on my BDSM and Kink Page.

Booking Deposit

A payment made in advance to secure an appointment.

Boundaries

Personal limits that define what someone is comfortable offering during a booking.

CIM

A common acronym referring to ejaculation in the mouth (Cum In Mouth). Commonly paired with CIMWS (With Swallow). I do not offer this service as I use condoms for oral sex.

Companion

A provider offering time, company, and potentially intimacy as part of a booking. This word is interchangeable with Escort but some people prefer to use Companion. I prefer “Sexworker” myself.

Companion Date

A booking focused on spending time together socially, such as dinner, drinks, events, or outings.

DATY

Dining At The Y. Its a funny little term that is a euphemism for giving oral sex to a woman. The Y is in reference to the shape of the area when legs are closed. I offer this as part of my sessions – you can go down on me if you like.

DFK – Deep French Kissing

Passionate kissing involving the tongue. Something I very much enjoy and include in all bookings if desired.

Discretion

The expectation of privacy and confidentiality for both client and provider.

Dom / Dominant / Domme

A person who takes the leading or controlling role in a power exchange dynamic.

Duo / Doubles

A booking involving two providers – a threeway! I enjoy arranging group play and talk more about Doubles opportunities here.

Edging

Bringing someone close to orgasm repeatedly before allowing them to climax. Yes please!

Escort

A person who offers companionship and time-based experiences that may include social and intimate interaction.

Extended Booking

A booking longer than a standard one or two hour session.

Fetish

A strong erotic interest in a particular object, body part, material, or activity.

Foreplay

Erotic play before penetration or orgasm-focused activity. Often includes kissing, touching, oral stimulation, teasing, or sensual contact. Foreplay IS a form of sex. It IS sex.

French

A shorthand term for kissing or tongue kissing.

GFE (Girlfriend Experience)

A style of booking emphasising intimacy, affection, and emotional connection. Often includes kissing and sensual touch, relaxed conversation. Read more about my GFE Sessions.

Greek

A euphemism sometimes used for anal sex.

Hard Limits

Activities that are strictly off the table for a provider. You can read about mine on my Experiences page.

Incall

A booking that takes place at the escort’s location, the escort is hosting.

Independent Escort

A provider who works for themselves rather than through an agency or brothel.

Intimacy

Emotional and physical closeness that may include affection, vulnerability, sensual touch, and sexual connection.

Kink

Erotic interests that fall outside conventional sexual scripts. Read more about my kink offerings here.

Massage

Physical touch focused on relaxation or sensual connection. The meaning varies widely depending on context. Sometimes used as a euphemism for sex by clients trying to book. I do not like this, it’s confusing. I prefer direct communication. I do not generally offer massage.

Mistress

A title often used by professional dominants.

Oral

Oral sex such as a blowjob, or eating pussy or rimming.

Outcall

A booking where the escort travels to the client. The client is hosting.

Overnight

A booking that extends through the night, including sleep and time together in the morning.

PIV

Short for penis-in-vagina penetration.

Porn Star Experience (PSE)

A term used to describe a more explicit or performance-oriented sexual experience. Read about mine here.

Provider

A neutral industry term used to refer to a sex worker.

Rate / Investment

The fee charged for a booking.

Roleplay

An erotic scenario where participants take on characters or roles.

Screening

The process used to verify new clients before meeting.

Sensation Play

Erotic activities focused on physical sensations rather than penetration.

Session

The period of time booked with an escort.

Sex Worker

Someone who works in the sex industry, this can include people who see clients in person, or those performing in porn, strippers and sexy dancers.

Spanish

Also known as titty-fucking. Putting a penis between breasts and moving it back and forth for physical and visual pleasure. Happy to offer this.

Tour

Travel to another city for a limited period to meet clients.

Tribute

A term sometimes used instead of payment in certain dynamics.

Vanilla

Sexual activity considered conventional or non-kinky.

Verification

Another term for screening used by some providers.

Understanding these terms can make navigating escort websites and booking experiences much easier. If you’re new to this world, the most important things are simple: be polite, communicate clearly, and respect the boundaries listed on someone’s website.

If you’d like to explore more about my own approach to intimacy, companionship, and erotic experiences, you’re welcome to look around my website further.

First time booking an escort? Check out my New Client Guide.