Sexual liberation
What is Sexual Liberation and how to do I facilitate it? Liberation is freedom from any limits on your thoughts and behaviour. We are faced with limits every day, in the form of social pressures, religious ideology, tradition and deeply ingrained shame.
Society likes to put us in boxes and its important to take a step back sometimes and decide whether or not that box works for you, or if you want to be in that box at all.
For the most part, these boxes were designed hundreds of years ago on a foundation of fear and population control. They are no longer relevant in our times, at least in the western world where we have more freedom than ever before to express our true natures.
Throughout history we have been taught by our government, the church and our ancestors, that sex is dirty, evil and morally corrupt. A lot of us do not consciously believe this to be true, but still carry this feeling internally. One of the heavy costs of these limits has been our sexual expression, connection to our bodies, to ourselves and to others.
There is a wide population of people who want to try new things in the bedroom (or specifically outside the bedroom) but their desires are so tangled up with their shame that they never pursue their interests. As a consequence, they spend their lives unfulfilled.
I’ve had many lovers in their late stages of life talk to me about watching their friends pass away and deciding to let go of their limitations, enjoy their lives and tick some things off their bucket list. Others have come to me curious to explore their gender and sexuality.
I love being able to provide a safe, welcoming setting to explore all facets of your sexuality, with empathy and a playful, pressure-free vibe. Above all, sex should be fun!
Maybe you feel like you’re too “vanilla” and want to branch out. Maybe you have some queerness to explore. Or perhaps you’re just really, really into feet and have been too scared to bring it up with anyone else. Whatever it is that’s been secretly on your mind, that’s got you going in incognito mode – it’s time to come out of the shadows and open up.
It can be so scary being vulnerable with someone, but the sense of relief and satisfaction that you can unlock is just so rewarding. I do warn you though, it can be addictive! This is not a one-sided reward either, I also feel such liberation from all the wonderful experiences I have with you. I have been tearing down my own boxes for a while but I’m still regularly surprised and delighted by wonderful new things that ignite dormant desires within me.
If you would like to explore how the shame you carry impacts you on a daily basis, and how to move past it, I wholeheartedly recommend books and videos by Brené Brown, particularly her book I Thought It Was Just Me.
“If you put shame in a Petri dish, it needs three things to grow exponentially: secrecy, silence and judgment. If you put the same amount of shame in a Petri dish and douse it with empathy, it can’t survive” – Brené Brown
